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Who Can You Trust?

Again and again, I ask “Who can you trust”? This is the overriding theme in my crime trilogy THE WARWICK COOPER THRILLERS and that stems from true life experience. Is it any wonder it took me nineteen years and eleven months to receive a crime reference, being turned away time and time again by the police before that happened? Is it any wonder the crime committed against me wasn’t recognised when so many of our police force are out there doing the same atrocious acts themselves?

Former head of the police watchdog, Chief Michael Lockwood (64), stepped down last December for ‘personal and domestic reasons’. He was actually being investigated for rape and indecent assault. The ex-police watchdog director general has now been charged with raping a girl under sixteen and indecent assault.

The position that Lockwood held handles the most serious complaints against police in England and Wales, the BBC reported.

Lockwood is far from alone.

With thanks to the Freedom of Information Act, I made a specific request for data from the Metropolitan Police (please note this isn’t national police statistics-only London’s Met) and the revaluations were with me almost immediately. Four years of shocking behaviour recorded by our Met against serving police officers and staff—what I’d like to know is who turns a blind eye, who is responsible for bystander intervention? Moreover, how many went unreported, and thus undetected, in this timeframe?

Before downloading the document there was a ton of information. The Met told me they employ 40,000 officers and staff (like that dampens down their stats in some way). Not. They did add that some officers would be counted twice due to offences being in differing categories. They also said that tables two (sexual assaults excluding rape) and three (rape) totalled together made up the true quantity of sexual assaults. Make up your mind! If officers hadn’t have committed the offences, then they wouldn’t need counting. Rape is an offence. Sexual Assault is an offence. Sexual harassment is an offence. Stalking is an offence. Indecent exposure is an offence. They all count. Period.

On this page of ‘information’ I was informed that they [the Met] expected “highest standards from its employees”. At no point was trust mentioned. I’m sure all these perpetrators of sex crimes, harassment and stalking are perfectly well equipped at solving crime, simply because they’re pretty good at covering it up. To have been caught, how long have they been carrying out these actions? How many victims are really involved and unwilling to come forward—lost in the depths of despair of their trauma?

Having statistics on this one section of society gives us a small insight into what I’d describe as a pandemic of deviant behaviour. These are people who have pledged to serve the public to protect and yet they feel they are above the law they are representing, and alleged to be upholding.

Let’s take a look at just how many officers we're talking about. I suggest you hold onto your hats because what I’ve already shared is shocking enough. The following is truly sickening and I've extracted it from a spreadsheet entitled ‘Conduct Matters and Public Complaints ‘

Between January 2019 and February 2022 a devastating 73 officers were accused of sexual harassment. Of these 5 have been suspended; 1 dismissed; 61 cases are outstanding; and 65 of those officers are still serving.

Between January 2019 and February 2022 a staggering 239 officers were accused of sexual assault (excluding rape). 13 of these were suspended; only 3 dismissed; 146 cases are outstanding; and 204 of these officers are still serving.

Between January 2019 and February 2022 a shocking 81 officers were accused of rape. 12 were suspended; 1 was dismissed; 71 cases are outstanding; and 73 officers are still serving.

Between January 2019 and February 2022 a sobering 50 officers were accused of stalking. 4 were suspended; 1 was dismissed; 36 cases are outstanding; and 38 officers are still serving.

Between January 2019 and February 2022 a revolting 6 officers were accused of indecent exposure. None were suspended; none were dismissed. No cases are outstanding; and four officers are still serving.

Wayne Couzens in among these statistics for indecent exposure (I assume as the dates fit). He exposed himself at a member of staff at a drive through McDonalds in Kent on 14 and 27th February 2021. There was a botched police investigation by Samantha Lee, as reported by The Guardian (18th May 2023) into this. Couzens went on to abduct Sarah Everard on 3rd March 2021 while she walked home in South London to the Brixton Hill area, by showing her his warrant card. She was handcuffed and placed in his car, driven to Dover where she was raped and strangled. Her body was burned, and her remains were disposed of in a nearby pond. According to news articles, Samantha Lee, a former PC for the Met, has been barred for life after her botched investigation into Couzens' 'flashing' case.

With this in mind how can the Met warrant having 135 outstanding cases over the period that covers these statistics during 2019 and 2020 and 226 during the period 2021 and 2022. This is an outrageous total of 321 outstanding cases. This revelation is shocking given that one flasher kidnapped and murdered—and he was one of their own who had been reported and not handled.

Please see below for the statistical evidence.

by Donna Siggers

the Statistical Evidence

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National Stalking Week: Some Facts and Opinions

Suzy Lamplugh disappeared in 1986 while at work. She was an Estate Agent. Her parents Paul and Diana set up The Suzy Lamplugh Trust to raise awareness about personal safety and to reduce the risk of violence and aggression for those most at risk, in her memory to be able to help others be, and fell safe. Ms Lamplugh was officially declared dead, presumed murdered in 1993—her last known appointment was at a house in Shorrolds Road with a client to whom she referred to as Mr Kipper. The case remains unsolved.

Standing Against Stalking: Supporting Young People is the theme for this year’s National Stalking Awareness Week (2023). The focus is on 16-24 year olds and how to better support young victims. According to the Suzy Lamplugh Trust, who carried out an online pilot survey to explore the experiences of this age range, 77% of respondents to their survey had experienced at least one repeated harmful behaviour considered consistent with stalking. This figure rises to 87% when the parameters of respondents are focused on the respondents identifying as female, non-binary or other. The Trust states that 84% of respondents had experienced behaviours consistent with stalking online behaviours in comparison with 70% experiencing in-person behaviours.

The Trust continues to state that 42% of their respondents had experienced repeatedly being touched in ways that made them feel uncomfortable as a part of a continuum of behaviours consistent with stalking. Again this increased (to 47%) when the parameters were moved to those identifying as female, non-binary or other in comparison to 25% of respondents who identified as male. 24% of respondents reported someone repeatedly threatening them online.

The Suzy Lamplugh Trust highlight that repeated, unwanted behaviours consistent with stalking had some kind of harmful impact on the wellbeing of the respondents. Alarmingly 33% of the respondents felt like the behaviour was their fault, 15% reported they harmed themselves as a result. Only 28% of respondents had considered that the behaviours they experienced might be stalking while fewer than half of respondents who spoke to someone felt they had been helpful.

Before I continue with my next reference to attitudes to stalking, I’d like to share my view on parts of the above research. There is a massive difference between stalking and assault. The Trust has alluded to ‘42% of their respondents had experienced repeatedly being touched in ways that made them feel uncomfortable as a part of a continuum of behaviours consistent with stalking’. I don’t buy that. That’s a step beyond stalking—that is assault. When a stalker is getting that close they can touch, there is a huge issue and they have escalated their behaviour beyond following. This is a dangerous situation.

A matter that boils my blood is the attitude of the police force towards the seriousness of stalking. It is estimated that 85,000 women and 12,000 men (aged 16-59) experience rape, attempted rape or sexual assault by penetration in England and Wales alone every year, that is roughly 11 of the most serious sexual offences (of adults alone) every hour. Approximately 90% of those who are raped know the perpetrator prior to the offence ( sourced 25/04/2023).

Let that sink in for a moment—most stalking victims also know their stalkers!

This brings me back to the Suzy Lamplugh Trust and their ‘Super-Complaint Submitted on Police Response to Stalking’. In brief, this complaint was submitted in 2022 which fell ten years after the stalking legislation was bought into force (2012 was the year my stalker stopped for it suddenly became illegal to continue it). The Trust, on behalf of the National Stalking Consortium found systemic issues in the response to staking across England and Wales—and that this placed many victims at risk. Just 5% of reports of stalking to the police in the year ending March 2022 resulted in a charge by the Crown Prosecution Service (CPS). It was concluded that a lack of understanding among officers as to what behaviours constitute stalking, as well as treating behaviours as single incidents as opposed to recognising the wider pattern of behaviour. The complaint highlighted that stalking was investigated as a low-level offence and was misidentified as harassment. This placed the crime on the wrong pathway within the criminal justice system.

It is my opinion that education is key and this still isn’t happening. In Kent (March 2021) the search for missing Sarah Everard commenced. She was found having been kidnapped and killed by a serving Metropolitan Police officer. This case was prime example of how crime escalating that goes unnoticed and unchecked can cause a catastrophic end. This officer was reported for exposing himself to a different woman much before he murdered Sarah, and it wasn’t taken seriously. Was he protected because he was a police officer? Or, perhaps the woman reporting the incident wasn’t believed? Maybe exposure isn’t deemed dangerous enough to act upon? In this case it was a propellant to a much more serious crime that could have been avoided. Sarah would still be alive if Wayne Couzens had of received psychological help or intervention from his superiors. At the very least he should have lost his job as he was still in a position of trust and that lost Sarah her life. 

Imagine if intervention is put in place for stalkers. If at least some can be stopped in their tracks.


Donna Siggers


Living a full life is important to me as trauma has touched my psyche too many times to count, and has done so on deep and personal levels. Approaching the launch of my new book I’m going to be addressing some subjects over the next few weeks that are, shockingly, a part of many people’s lives. I do so with the intention to uplift the spirit of anyone going through the torment of each given subject and hope that it gives them strength. 

Unfortunately, being stalked has formed a part of my past. Unwanted attention curtailing the freedom of another person to the point they are left feeling in a constant need of being careful is a good description of stalking. Although each individual, isolated incident might seem innocent enough to onlookers, these repeated behaviours mount up. In doing so they amount to a course of conduct causing significant alarm, harassment or distress that is unwanted attention.

This behaviour is, therefore unacceptable.

Stalking is a form of mental assault, which at times can also become physical. There are laws in place to protect against it but unless you are under direct threat of violence its often difficult to get anyone to take you seriously (especially the police) and you have to provide written, photographic or video evidence that you are under direct threat of violence to be taken immediately seriously. 

Stalking is a dangerous game to be on the receiving end of. It leaves you in a position of choice—crumbling under the pressure or in becoming stronger. Personally, I was left having to decide on tactic changes, on having to leave the house at differing times and living behind closed curtains in order for peace.

I knew my stalker, which is often the case. Ironically they are the most dangerous kind. It started with a letter and some flowers, with the letters turning to emails and phone calls. My ordeal lasted six years.

Now with a platform to speak out about the torment that some endure, I believe it important to speak out, for silence solves nothing. Some might think I’m holding onto my past—to those I say I share to help others have the strength to make this stop.

I struggled in silence for too long. I relied on those who said they couldn’t help. Help is out there if you know where to seek it.

I would like to add that the person on the receiving end isn't always a woman and that in some cases it is the woman doing the stalking. 

Help is out there... here are the websites etc,

If you are in immediate danger always call 999 and ask for the police.

The National Stalking Helpline through the British government will take you to three links: 

First: The Suzy Lamplugh Trust, which was set up after estate agent, Suzy Lamplugh went missing on 28th July 1986 9in Fulham. She was officially declared dead, presumed murdered in 1983. The trust was set up "because what happened to Suzy must not happen to anyone else". The website is filled with useful information.

Second: Paladin National Stalking Advocacy Service, who assist high risk victims of stalking throughout England and Wales. You would be put into contact with Paladin through the police. Their website address is down right now but is normally available if you google "stalking government UK"

Third: Protection Against Stalking, which was set up after Clare was murdered at work by her ex boyfriend by Clare's mother, Tricia. Committed to raising awareness of stalking and supporting victims and their families they can be contacted via the link below,

Additionally, Solace Women's Aid is specifically located in London for women and children. It gives free advice and support on how to build safe, strong lives enabling futures free from abuse and violence.